By Michael J. McManus
in BATON ROUGE ADVOCATE
Last summer
Couples with
children seeking a divorce in
"The
longer period of time makes it more likely they are not going to divorce,"
explained Rep. Ernie Alexander, the bill's primary sponsor. "We're trying
to hold the marriage together for the sake of the children.
"We know
that in one-parent families, a child is twice as likely to drop out of school,
three times as likely to become pregnant as a teenager, six times more likely
to be in poverty and 12 times more likely to be incarcerated." He cited a
study that the change could cut the divorce rate by 23 percent.
That's a
reasonable estimate.
Senator Bob Kostelka, a retired judge who led the fight for the law in
He adds that
the change in the law, simply restores what had been
the law requiring a year of separation - before No Fault Divorce made things
easier. "The real people who suffer in a divorce are the minor children.
This is a way to lead to more reconciliation and less divorce and more families
staying together for the sake of the child," he affirmed.
John Crouch,
Director of Americans for Divorce Reform in
The stiffer
law was championed by the Louisiana Family Forum, an affiliate of Focus on the
Family, led by Judge Darrell White (ret.) who observed, "It is a miracle
that this thing ended up passing. We had divorce bar opposition and domestic
violence opposition. Some legislators asked, "If people are unhappy, why
should they be forced to stay together?"
Judge White
had answers. First, he cited a poll taken in
Second, he
cited a 2001 study by the Louisiana Law Institute which urged the legislature
to consider a number of reforms of No Fault, one of which was a longer cooling
off period.
Third, he
cited a study by Dr. Linda Waite which revealed that "86 percent of
unhappily married people who stick it out, find that, five years later, their
marriages are happier" Three-fifths who said their marriage was unhappy in
the late '80s and who stayed married, said their marriage was either "very
happy" or "happy" when re-interviewed in the early 1990s.
Thus, sociology backs up the vows taken by billions of couples over centuries,
that it is wise to commit to one another "for better, for worse till death
do us part." Every marriage goes through times which are
"worse." But if couples honor their vows, most marriages get
"better."
The Senate
bill added an amendment that if one party has been physically or sexually
abused, or if a court protection order is issued, the six-month separation
period remains in place.
One problem is that
Nevertheless,
I predict many states will follow