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Charles C.W. Cooke at National Review: But it is nonetheless worth noting that there is no particular groundswell — even in states and cities that have both legal gay marriage and significant numbers of homosexuals — and that, when gay couples do decide to get married, they are more likely than their straight equivalents to change their minds later.
CreditDonkey: Married people are happier by many measures, yet many marriages are unhappy or fail because couples bring to the partnership significant debt, including student loans and credit card balances, as well as self-deceptions and outright lies about money. Our new research infographic urges couples to take a clear-eyed look at their prospects for happiness if they are not honest with themselves and their partners about money.
The Manila Times: The good news is that divorce involving children is down. The bad news is that children today are less likely to live with both parents. Thirty years ago, 66 percent of 16-years-olds lived with their mom and dad. By 2004, only 55 percent did so.
Wall Street Journal: In 2010, New York became the last state in the country to pass a no-fault divorce law and eliminate the need for one partner to be held responsible for the end of the marriage . . . But as no-fault cases proceed through the courts, a handful of judges have interpreted the law differently, calling for trials to determine whether the marriage is “irretrievably broken.”
Mark Bauerlein at Public Discourse: But it worked only as long as a romance had lifelong consequences. One kiss had to mean a decisive pledge or a gross misjudgment. A marriage contract involved transfers of land and money. Marriage itself lasted forever, and escaping a bad one brought lasting ignominy. Once marriage lost its binding character, it no longer served the novel as a significant plot, and without the marriage plot, the novel lost its basis.
Anna Cuevas at Huffington Post: Is there a correlation between divorce and foreclosure? Does foreclosure increase the likelihood of divorce, or does divorce increase the risk of foreclosure? The answer is both are probably true.
Christian Institute: One of England’s most senior family court judges says the time has come to halt the damage being done by broken marriages. Sir Paul Coleridge will today launch a new group to promote marriage and tackle Britain’s ‘divorce addiction’.
NY Daily News: Two bills approved by the Indian cabinet on Thursday will make registration of marriages compulsory, irrespective of religion. The intent is to prevent the harassment of women in divorce cases .
Findlaw (AP): Maryland’s highest court is poised to hear arguments in a precedent-setting case involving two women who married in California but were denied a divorce in Maryland, a state that does not currently allow same-sex weddings.
Christian Institute: Two senior judges want to see the introduction of ‘no fault’ divorce in England, but critics say it will lead to a greater injustice in divorce cases.
Christian Institute: The legal rights on dissolving a same-sex civil partnership are exactly the same as a divorce between a married couple, the Court of Appeal has ruled.
Belfast Telegraph: More than 200,000 people are divorced or separated in Ireland, it has emerged.
WAVE3.com (includes video): Just how committed are you to your marriage? A new bill up for debate in Montgomery right now would give engaged couples the option of making it harder on themselves to get a divorce.
Eve Tushnet at First Things: An older man I know once remarked that in his experience, there wasn’t much point in arguing that divorce was wrong. What he’d come to believe was that—especially when the couple had children—divorce was simply impossible. These two people would continue to remain yoked to one another’s lives, their memories, griefs, resentments as intertwined as their laddering DNA.
Volokh Conspiracy: What happens when divorced parents with joint legal custody disagree about whether their child should be given the routine childhood immunizations? That’s the issue in Grzyb v. Grzyb (Va. Cir. Ct.), decided in mid-2009 but just uploaded to Westlaw a day or two ago.
Vatican Information Service: This morning in the Vatican Benedict XVI received a group of prelates from the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops, who have recently competed their “ad limina” visit. Extracts of his English-language remarks to them are given below:
Washington Post: The D.C. Council approved a bill Tuesday that will make it easier for same-sex couples who married in Washington to get divorced.
James Taranto at the Wall Street Journal: Over the past few weeks, this column has on more than one occasion expressed agreement with Rick Santorum’s view that advances in birth control have had deleterious social consequences, most notably in contributing to the breakdown of the family. To our surprise, a not-insignificant number of our readers have pushed back against this idea, which some find counterintuitive and others downright unthinkable. So we’d like to go through the argument step by step.
NY Times: Marriage has lost its luster in Lorain, Ohio. Sixty-three percent of all births to women under 30 in Lorain County occur outside marriage, according to Child Trends, a research center in Washington.
Monreal Gazette: The federal government has tabled legislation to close a loophole that has called into question the legitimacy of thousands of gay marriages among foreigners who’ve come to Canada to wed.
ZENIT: Each year in the United States over a million children are the innocent parties to the divorce of their parents. While divorce also hurts the parents it is the children who particularly suffer, according to recent research. The findings come in a study published in January by the Marriage and Religion Research Institute, “The Effects of Divorce on Children,” by Patrick F. Fagan and Aaron Churchill. | Study
NY Daily News: The lesbians who became the poster couple for gays seeking to marry in California are now doing what countless straight couples have done before them — they’re splitting up.
The Marriage Economy: ‘I Couldn’t Afford To Get Divorced’ : NPR (includes audio): As unemployment rises, the divorce rate goes down: For every 1 percent increase in the unemployment rate, the divorce rate goes down by 1 percent.
LiveScience: Many committed couples aren’t marrying because they fear divorce, a new study indicates, though many other reasons for and against marriage abound in young adults from different social classes.
Juan Williams at TheHill.com: The Census Bureau reports that 29 percent of white children are considered in or near poverty, along with 64 percent of black children and 65 percent of Hispanic children. There is a link between poverty and a rising number of out-of-wedlock babies born every year, with 24 percent, 38 percent and 42 percent of white, black and Hispanic woman-headed families, respectively, living in poverty. These harsh facts are an ugly consequence of American family breakdown and political inertia in a time of congressional fights for political advantage over budgets and tax breaks.
Fox News: In other words, Pew’s 51% of unmarried Americans includes a very large number of “not-yet-married” Americans. In fact, what’s striking about Americans is that unlike folks in other developed countries, they still get married if you just give them some time.
Plaintiff Jeff L. Thigpen, as Register of Deeds of Guilford County, North Carolina, and as a citizen of North Carolina and the United States, objects and finds it morally and constitutionally repugnant to administer a system which requires all persons entering into marriage to have licenses that will be recorded; to oblige pastors, priests, and rabbis who are performing marriage ceeremonies to perform them pursuent to licenses issued by the state; and to require either the religious or civil solemnization of marriages.”
OneNewsNow.com: Hiram Sasser of Liberty Institute tells OneNewsNow the couples are trying to twist state law to suit their own agenda. “These are two men who claim they want to get a divorce, and the proper remedy in this state is just to declare the marriage void. It’s the same result as if the marriage never happened,” Sasser explains.
Telegraph: The number of couples divorcing has risen for the first time in almost a decade, with some experts suggesting that the recent recession could be to blame.
This understanding no longer exists in our culture, and some argue that when Americans began divorcing in high numbers, redefined marital sexuality via contraception use, and reduced marriage to mere commitment, it set the stage for our current same-sex marriage debate.
NC: Religious Marriage Without License Is Merely Voidable, and Not Terminated By Religious Divorce Alone
Religion Clause: In Mussa v. Palmer-Mussa, (NC App., Dec. 6, 2011), a North Carolina appeals court held that the marriage of defendant Nikki Palmer-Mussa to Juma Mussa was void because at the time of the marriage Nikki was married to another man.
Cal Thomas at Townhall: Ultimately, what voters must decide is this: Does a presidential candidate’s personal flaws rise (or fall) to a level that inhibits his ability to do the job of president? Put another way, if you are about to have surgery, do you care if the doctor is a cad, or do you care more whether most of his patients are alive and well?
Religion Clause: : In In re the Marriage of John and Angela Bell, (CA App., Nov. 18, 2011), a California appellate court upheld a trial court’s order in a marriage dissolution case preventing the father from continuing taking the couple’s young children to Mormon religious services and Sunday School without the mother’s consent.
Legal Periodical: Marriage and Divorce in a Multicultural Context: Multi-Tiered Marriage and the Boundaries of Civil Law and Religion
Nichols, Joel A., Marriage and Divorce in a Multicultural Context: Table of Contents and Introduction (2011). MARRIAGE AND DIVORCE IN A MULTICULTURAL CONTEXT: MULTI-TIERED MARRIAGE AND THE BOUNDARIES OF CIVIL LAW AND RELIGION, Joel A. Nichols, ed., Cambridge University Press, 2012; U of St. Thomas Legal Studies Research Paper No. 11-36. Available at SSRN: http://ssrn.com/abstract=1957847
Tulsa Beacon: “I respect the views of those who argue that no-fault divorce creates less havoc than the alternatives, but I question that orthodoxy,” McCullough said. “There is very little in the divorce process that is even remotely connected to the interest of the children.”
William J. Doherty and Leah Ward Sears at The Washington Post: Still, many are skeptical about whether we can lower the divorce rate without trapping more people in bad marriages. This skepticism is fueled by two common assumptions: Divorce happens only after a long process of misery and conflict; and, once couples file for divorce, they don’t entertain the idea of reconciling.
Maggie Gallagher at Public Discourse: A new proposal for reducing unnecessary divorce gets to the heart of the problem: the current system seeks to meet a divorcing couple’s every need—except for time and education on reconciliation.
The American Independent: In a move to address increasing numbers of divorce in the state, the Senate Judiciary Committee has taken up legislation which would change state law to delay the amount of time between the issuance of a license and the date a marriage can be performed.
The Express Tribune: The government and the Hindu community were unable to break their deadlock on Tuesday over the divorce clause in the Hindu Marriage Act. The clause has proved contentious since the bill was drafted in 2008, with the government defying Hindu leaders who believe divorce is not part of their religion’s culture.
Glenn T. Stanton at Baptist Press: Their data indicates that people with cohabiting experience who marry have a 50 to 80 percent higher likelihood of divorcing than married couples who never cohabited. A Canadian sociologist explains . . .
The Church Report: Poor New Jersey — derided for ‘Jersey Shore,’ aggressive driving and talking too fast. But when it comes to happily ever after, the Garden State is No. 1.
Catholic Culture: A desire for divorce is the cause of much of the tension between Muslims and Coptic Orthodox Christians in Egypt, according to a newly published article in the Catholic Near East Welfare Association’s ONE Magazine.
OneNewsNow.com: An new analysis from the U.S. Census Bureau suggests that the Bible Belt deals with more marital problems than anywhere else — but one researcher says that’s not a reflection of Christianity.
Religion Clause: Under Egyptian personal status law, the Coptic Orthodox Church controls divorce of couples where both are members of the Church. Al-Ahram this week reports that hundreds of Copts who are seeking a divorce plan to gather in front of the Ministry of Justice to collectively resign membership in the Church.
USATODAY.com: Instead, the report says, Dutch entrepreneur Jim Halfens has created the “Divorce Hotel” for couples capable of ending their marriage without lawyers during a three-day mediation process.
Gregg Herman at Wisconsin Law Journal: But, before we go any further, a disclaimer: It is not my purpose to opine as to whether this legislation should be enacted by a state. Certainly, all divorce lawyers, from strictly a business point of view, should support such legislation. As the joke goes, the leading cause of divorce is marriage. This article does not seek to editorialize, but only to outline on the legal ramifications and discuss the pros and cons of the different means of ending relationships.
MSNBC.com: It may not be a crime to be poor, but it can land you behind bars if you also are behind on your child-support payments. Thousands of so-called “deadbeat” parents are jailed each year in the U.S. after failing to pay court-ordered child support — the vast majority of them for withholding or hiding money out of spite or a feeling that they’ve been unfairly gouged by the courts.
The Washington Post: A new report says cohabitation has replaced divorce as the biggest source of instability for American families. Brad Wilcox, the report’s author, chatted about why this is.
Can there be any doubt?: fighting abortion also means fighting for marriage, and against the culture of “anything goes” sexual promiscuity that has lead to the deaths of millions of our children. We need to build a culture of life.
But a new crop of research is challenging the idea that the main or only problem with the decline of marriage is the absence of fathers. An equally big or even bigger problem may be the churning romantic lives of unmarried and divorced mothers.
We physically abuse our children at staggering rates, we pump them full of antidepressants and other pharmaceutical drugs and we send them off to public schools that more closely resemble prison camps every single day.
AP: ingles, take note: With marriages at an all-time low, states in the South and West rank among the highest for couples hearing wedding bells. But many of these states also have higher rates of divorce.
Nathan A. Cherry at Engage Family Minute: I did find some common ground with Ms. Krasnow when she said “You can leave each other…But once you have children, you can’t leave the marriage… it becomes bigger than you.” The best thing, the things worth fighting for are always bigger than we are. Anything smaller than us is not worth our time.
NYTimes.com: American children are more likely to have parents who never married than parents who are divorced. That is one finding in the latest report from the National Marriage Project, which is based at the University of Virginia and which conducts research on marriage and family in the United States.
Religion Clause: In Rosenstein v. Rosenstein, (TX App., Aug. 11, 2011), a Texas appeals court held that in a divorce action, the trial court violated the mother’s Establishment Clause rights when, in an amended decree, it awarded the father exclusive possession of the couple’s children on four Jewish religious holidays, and on every Sunday morning.
Andrew Cherlin and W. Bradford Wilcox at the Brookings Institution: This policy brief reviews the deepening marginalization of marriage and the growing instability of family life among moderately-educated Americans: those who hold high school degrees but not four-year college degrees and who constitute 51 percent of the young adult population (aged twenty-five to thirty-four). Written jointly by two family scholars, one of them a conservative (W. Bradford Wilcox, director of the National Marriage Project) and the other a liberal (Andrew J. Cherlin, professor at Johns Hopkins University), it is an attempt to find common ground in the often bitter and counterproductive debates about family policy. We come to this brief with somewhat different perspectives. Wilcox would emphasize the primacy of promoting and supporting marriage. Cherlin argued in a recent book, The Marriage-Go-Round, that stable care arrangements for children, whether achieved through marriage or not, are what matter most. But both of us agree that children are more likely to thrive when they reside in stable, two-parent homes. We also agree that in America today cohabitation is still largely a short-term arrangement, while marriage remains the setting in which adults seek to maintain long-term bonds. Thus, we conclude by offering six policy ideas, some economic, some cultural, and some legal, designed to strengthen marriage and family life among moderately-educated Americans. Finally, unless otherwise noted, the findings detailed in this policy brief come from a new report by Wilcox, When Marriage Disappears: The New Middle America.